We’re all guilty of it. We beat around the bush because we are too scared or embarrassed to say what we actually want and how we actually feel. But why? Life is already hard to navigate through so why do we feel it’s necessary to clutter up life with even more vagueness?
Part of the reason why we are so hesitant to say what we feel and actually mean it is because we tend to say things without thinking or we care too much about everyone else’s reaction. We spend countless hours thinking about how we are viewed by society and how we can fit into the “perfect image” of what’s trending or cool and that’s when we lose a sense of who we actually are. We lose a sense of all of our little quirks and weirdness that make up who we really are. The real real.
During my twenty-five years on this beautiful earth, I’ve learned a few important things. A few things that have shaped my perspective of the world and the people in it. For one, nothing is done the way you want unless you do it yourself. We tend to make excuses for why we don’t get things done but we continue to sit on our asses waiting for it to happen by someone else. TRUST ME if you do this, you’re going to be waiting a long time unless you get up and get after it. The energy that is behind someone who actually has passion for something vs. the energy behind someone who is just doing something to do it is uncomparable.
Next up, I learned that it’s v important to be vocal about what you want and what you don’t want. Like anything in life, if you want to control something, you need to be the driver. You need to be true to yourself and actually speak up and ask. Sometimes I feel like we get embarrassed and shy away from doing and asking for what we really want. Right now, in this moment, cut the shit and make a promise to yourself to get up and get after it. Ask for that raise at your job, ask for that second piece of cake (because duh), and one hundred percent ask your S.O or potential S.O what they are feeling and what they want. Because honestly, there’s no point in wasting your time or theirs. You only have one life to live and one opportunity to make something happen, so what are you waiting for?