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Hey, what's your number?

As I sit on this 8 hour plane ride traveling to ~paradise~, I decide to venture into #RaeChowDayDreams and explore the concept of double standards. Now, you may think why the f is this your first thought when on a plane ride to ~paradise~? Still unclear to me but here we are. For those of you who don’t know what a double standard is or for those of you who think you know but are still unclear, it is

a rule or principle that is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups.

A perfect example explaining this phenomenon is the concept of men and women and their “number”. Meaning, if a woman has a high number* she is thought of as a slut or easy. However, if a man has a high number he is known as “da man.” Let’s just take a moment for that to sink in. How the heck is this OK by any means?.

Cue blog post about feminism (just kidding).

A few days ago, I had sent a survey to some of my friends, co-workers, and family members and had them send it to their friends, co-workers, and family members all so I could get a huge sum of data all stemming from the concept of one’s “number”. No, I don’t mean your phone number, I mean your ~number~. Ya know, the number of people you have been with…sexually. The number of people you have slept with over your time of being sexually active. The people who answered this survey were of all different ages, races, and demographics. To my surprise, the data was pretty conclusive in that both men and women thought that honesty was the best policy when it came to disclosing their number. (I knew that policy was important when they first implemented it in first grade!). Most people’s reasoning was because of health & safety concerns with a partner.

Now a visual from the survey ( please ignore the green dot, I do have a lot of fans)

How many of you gals have been in a situation where it was your first time with a guy and he “claimed” he had no condoms or that he just “doesn’t like to use them” or that “it’s fine”? Or (a crowd fav) when the guy flips it to you and asks if you are on the pill. Sorry hun, for once this is about you and not me. Insider tip to you guys-- just because a girl is on the pill, doesn’t mean it’s a free pass to be a free willy. Please learn how science & your body works and be a little more cautious and responsible like you claim to be.

I think it’s funny how the modern dating world still views someone’s number as a double standard. If a woman chose to sleep with 10 people in her 10 years of being sexually active is it that bad? That’s like one person for every year! If a man slept with 10 people in his 10 years of being sexually active he would be ridiculed, and that’s not right either. Why is it that society stigmatizes someone’s number based on one’s gender? At the end of the day, we are all human. We have the same desires, needs, and wants. We are all given the same decision to make at 2AM after a long night of partying and honestly, what or who that decision includes is no one’s business but your own. Whether you choose to stay on the conservative side of things or if you like to test the lines, you do you. At the end of the day, your number is irrelevant. What matters is that you’re not gambling with those numbers.

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